How do I undo something that I’ve agreed with for so long?
And how do I not blame the person who said it to me, with every good intention of trying to help?
‘Good parents = good kids.’
That phrase has not left me for the past few months. Someone said that (or a version of that) to me and I have not been able to shake it.
It makes me feel like I can’t fail, that every thing wrong or out of sync with my kids is somehow my fault.
It makes me judge that person and want to see failure in their life.
The truth is that my kids are loved because I choose to love them. They have free will, as do I. They can’t be controlled. Lead? Influenced? Sure. But not controlled.
I don’t want to believe it any more.